Attachment parenting is basically a way to care for your child that instils a close bond between parent and child. This way of parenting is quite popular as it generally brings out the best in both the baby and the parents. The basics of Attachment Parenting can be divided into seven steps and deals with different aspects of a babies relationship with their parents.
Bonding at birth is the first of these steps and attachment parenting encourages the mother especially to be close to the baby after birth. Being close to their mother after birth is said to promote natural biological attachment between the two. In cases where the newborn baby has been separated from the mother usually due to medical issues the relationship still goes through a bonding stage to ‘catch up’.
Breast feeding forms part of the basics of Attachment Parenting and is important as it helps a mum to learn to read a babies cues. Breast feeding is the best option for newborns as it contains all the important nutrients required by the baby at this time in its life and also promotes a chemistry between mother and child.
Carrying and holding a baby is also promoted in attachment parenting as carried babies tend to fuss less and prefer to be close to mum rather than in a pram or stroller. Baby wearing also improves the parents sensitivity towards the needs of the baby.
The sleeping arrangements are also important for attachment parenting and co sleeping is encouraged. Co sleeping for many families involves having the babies bed in the same room as them so that they can be close by if they need to comfort the baby.
Attachment parenting also teaches parents the language value of a babies cry. Baby’s cry as a way of communicating and this method of parenting also teaches that a babies cry is a signal designed for the babies survival and the development of the parents. In responding to a baby’s cry parents soon learn to communicate with the child and meet their needs.
The next stage of Attachment parenting involves the use of baby trainers. Attachment parenting advises against using baby trainers as they are generally rigid and extreme parenting styles which focus more on time management then the babies needs.
Lastly Attachment parenting focuses on balance. With the arrival of a new baby it is easy for the focus to shift from yourself to the baby. What is really needed in these situations is a balance between your needs and the needs of the child. It is important to have some time to yourself and to know when to say no which for some may be difficult.